|Or, you know, Harrison Ford related|
I recently read this article and while I found the whole thing very interesting, the point that struck me the most was #10 about confusing comfort with happiness. Even as I was reading the article I thought, "Well, yeah, I'm happy when I'm comfortable," thus proving the author's point.
"Comfort sells easier than happiness. Comfort is easy. It requires no effort and no work. Happiness takes effort. It requires being proactive, confronting fears, facing difficult situations, and having unpleasant conversations."
Then I thought of how happy I feel when I accomplish something I thought I couldn't. The other day I ran for 20 minutes without stopping and I felt fantastic. But definitely not comfortable. I have really intense driving anxiety and when I arrive at my destination I always feel exhilarated that I did something that scared me so much. Not comfortable while it was happening, but fulfilled that I did it. So: touche, Mark Manson.
Then I read this blog post by Meredith (if you're not reading her blog, you really should, it's wonderful). She just finished her "Blogging for Confidence" series wherein she challenged herself to do things that made her uncomfortable.
"I don't think I even realized it, but I had no idea who I was until I started confronting my fears head on."
As I read over the things she had done for her challenge, I had a moment of envy. "I could knit in public, I do it all the time! I could go to movies by myself, that doesn't scare me," thus totally and completely missing the point. It isn't about the exact thing you do, it's about challenging yourself. It's about the fulfillment you get when you do something that is hard or scary for you.
Back to the idea of patterns: there are a things going on right now for me that are challenging in a three separate areas of my life. It's all too tempting to want to back off, or go back to sleep, or to give in to feeling overwhelmed and not act or to try to get Meredith to do the things that scare me while I do the things that scare her. But it's worth it to forge on ahead, feel some discomfort and hope for some happiness. I love it when life aligns like this, that when I'm facing challenges, my brain makes connections that allow me to see issues in a whole new light.
|End seriousness. Have another picture of Harrison Ford as a mental palate cleanser.|
|All my dishcloths are falling apart so I made myself some more!|
|This is a sample for one of my JoAnn's classes: it's a cable stitch of the month pattern.|
|I put the finishing touches on another bag. I love using a different color for the handle.|
Have a great weekend, everybody! I'm headed up north for some sun and sand and as little internet as possible! What are you up to this weekend?